Here’s a random fact about me. I detest bullying – especially when it is done by an adult to another adult.
We all have our own personalities. Some people by nature are more outgoing, love to socialize and are not afraid to speak their mind. Some people by nature are the exact opposite. Introverted, shy, soft-spoken. And everyone – in their own right – are awesome, exceptional people.
But every now and then – you come across that one person (maybe more) – who think that their way is the right way and whoever comes across their path must do everything the way they want.
The dictionary definition of bully is: to use superior strength or influence to intimidate someone, typically to force a person to do what one wants.
Why would someone bully another person?
1. They see you as a threat.
2. They hate themselves.
3. They want to be you.
How can you tell if you are being bullied? You feel like you are being pressured to do something you don’t want to do with some kind of fear factor – by the bully – making you feel that if you don’t do it then something bad is going to happen.
It’s a mental game these bullies play. Sometimes pretending to be your friend and telling you that they care and the next minute – turning around and demanding that you do something that you don’t want to do – or else. They do or say something to you to make your life miserable. It hurts and it’s very emotional for the one who is being bullied.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of letting yourself be bullied – especially if, like me, you are the soft-spoken, easy-going, non-confrontational personality – to believe the negativity that often spews from their mouth. “You’re depressed. You will never be good enough. You are a hinderance to your success.” Hear it often enough and you start to believe it.
It’s not worth it folks. Unfortunately, adult bullying will probably never go away and the best thing to do is:
1. Don’t allow them to bring you down.
2. Stand up for yourself
3. Never, ever give in to their controlling demands.
4. Report them to their higher ups and let them deal with the person.
5. Then walk away and live your life – successfully.
As Joel Osteen said – God wants you to be successful and sometimes he has to get the negativity out of your life to get you to where you need to be.
2 thoughts on “On Bullying”
The worst is bullying at school. Children are not always able to defend them properly. Unless someone teaches them.
I agree – if bullying is not stopped when they are children – they often turn into very abusive adults…