So around this time of year, probably, a lot of us begin to get that feeling of “bah humbug.” That time of year where we feel sad, blue, discouraged, unmotivated, depressed, overwhelmed and just plain tired. 

The last thing we want to do is think about what to make for Thanksgiving dinner, or what to buy the kids or grandkids for Christmas. Forget trekking over the woods and through the snow to Grandma’s house. It feels like our joy has been sucked right out of us. 

Circumstances, such as missing loved ones, being home for the holidays, the death of a loved one, the loss of a pet, abrupt changes, people being rude, or even just a really rough year can make us feel all the bah humbug emotions. Our favorite Christmas song, is Elvis’ “I’ll Have a Blue Christmas Without You.” 

Bah Humbug – became popular because of Charles Dickens character – Ebenezer Scrooge. Ebenezer is best known for his miserly, miserable, mopey behavior. But why was he like that? It turned out – because he forgot what it was like to reach out to others, to lend a helping hand and he let himself get lonely. 

This time of year – probably the number one thing that zaps the joy right out of Christmas is loneliness. Loneliness is not a pleasant place to be. It’s dark in the midst of loneliness. So how can we combat loneliness? How can we help someone rise up out of the bah humbug place?

1. Reach out to others. Make sure others around you have a place to go for the holidays. Invite someone over for Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner. 
2. Help out with a charitable organization. This year I’m doing Operation Shoe Box and getting together with some friends to fill a couple of boxes. 
3. Give a smile. Lend a hand. Listen closely – a lot of people say I’m fine when they aren’t really fine at all. Look at the eyes. The eyes are the window to the soul
4. Make someone a handmade gift. It comes from the heart. 

And what about if you are the one in the bah humbug mood? It’s okay to be there….just don’t stay there. Find something that makes you happy. Even if it’s something like watching The Grinch, Elf, Home Alone or a sappy Hallmark Christmas movie – if those movies don’t make you smile – what will? 

Do something for you – take care of yourself. And if the feeling gets too strong and you feel like you just want to give up because the loneliness is too heavy…. don’t be afraid to seek help. Call a friend. Call a family member. Call me!!! Message me! Leave me a comment. I’ve been there…. Don’t be there too. 

Hey my friends – stay positive.

I’ll be right there remaining

Positively, Debbie. 

Love you all – go and Light Your World!!!