My husband is a contractor and has been one, pretty much for the past 17 years. He has been working as an overseas contractor for the past 10 years. One of the worst things to deal with, as a contractors wife, is the loneliness that hits, like a Jeep hitting a brick wall, at full speed. It’s hard and there have been many nights I cried myself to sleep.
Then the kids started leaving the house. So not only was the husband gone, the nest was empty. That made it even doubly hard and I do admit, I fell into depression. I also began to realize that loneliness is not a feeling, that I need to dwell on. Because even though, it would be so nice to have an actual person to talk to and not Great Danes… I had to come to the realization that I am never quite alone.
Hearing people say, “you aren’t alone, God is with you,” made me so irritated. Yea? Well, is God going to come down and talk with me and go with me to the store and give me an actual, physical hug? No… but in some of the darkest hours of loneliness, I have felt His peace come down and actually wrap me in a hug. I knew that I wasn’t alone. God said, He would never leave us or forsake us. I have learned to hold onto that promise.
I have also learned that there are many people out there, who want to help. I have learned that it is okay, sometimes, to ask for help. I have learned that it’s okay to ask someone if they want company, because, nine times out of ten, they are feeling lonely too. I’m not the only one fighting the loneliness battle – there are many people out there fighting it too. Especially now with the social distancing.
I am back to the empty nest again. But on a brighter note! My husband is coming home and he has a job here in our hometown. He gets to be home, finally. I am so looking forward to it!!! It’s been a long time coming.
So to recap – Lesson One as a contractors wife – I learned, I am never really alone. I have God, family and friends who are there to help me and support me.
Plus – staying busy with work, healthy living and making cards helps too.
Day 17 of the Card – A – Day Countdown. I got three cards made today using the May 2020 Paper Pumpkin Kit – A Kit In Color. Here is the video tutorial.