The 12 Commandments of Debbie

One thing everyone has in common is their pursuit of happiness. As a psychology major, I learned about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. On this five tier ladder  are:

  • 1. Physiologic needs: food, water, warmth, and rest.
  • 2. Safety needs: security and safety,
  • 3. Belonging and loving needs: intimate relationships and friends,
  • 4. Esteem needs – Prestige and feelings of accomplishment,
  • 5. Self actualization needs: achieving ones full potential including creative activities.

This is a motivational theory and depending on where we are in life’s circumstances is where we are in our happiness level. Someone who is trying to stay alive and not starve to death is going to be very happy when given shelter and food. Someone who is climbing the corporate ladder is going to be happy when they have been promoted. Do any of us ever reach the 5th rung of the ladder? Do we ever really achieve our full potential? Or is that something we are continually working on throughout the course of life?

We are all pursuing that 5th degree of happiness. Even America’s own Declaration of Independence gives us that right to pursue happiness.

     “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness…”

Side Note: Did you know that people get paid to be positivity experts? 

So how do work towards that common pursuit of happiness? Well, the Bible gave us a list of commandments that help all people – who follow  it – lead a happy life. I know that I feel happier when I don’t lie, cheat, steal, want what other people have, get angry, show respect and honor, etc. Maybe those Ten C0mmandments weren’t just put there as rules but to actually motivate us to live a happier life? Maybe they were put there to give us a solution as to how to live a happy life?

Gretchen Rubin began her Happiness Project with making resolutions. I am going to call them New You Solutions. One positivity expert  I read, wrote about finding happiness, “Listen to the message your frustration is trying to tell you.” So, I listened. I listened closely and these are my personal 12 Commandments, I came up with, for my life, to help me bring on the happy – (sorry Moses) : )

  1. Be Debbie
  2. Let It Go
  3. Get It Done
  4. Work Hard
  5. Enjoy the Journey
  6. Want It
  7. Do What I Ought
  8. Conquer Fear
  9. Plan Ahead – Be Prepared
  10. Have Fun
  11. Practice Radical Self-Love
  12. Care Deeply

These 12 commandments are what I am focusing my personal Happiness Project on – for the next year – I will focus on one a month. This month of October – I am focusing on #3 – Get It Done. It’s time! It’s time to get it done. It’s time to get organized, lose the last 40 pounds, and finish those projects I have started. Get it done – cross it off the list. Here goes!!!! Let’s see how well I can stick to my own commandments without breaking any of them.





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